Hubby and I were watching a parenting-themed show the other night. They are all sitting down to dinner like a good American family. There’s a little tension and the teen daughter says, “Hey, I scored 3 goals in my game today.” To which her parents replied, “That’s great!” And “Good Job.” Dennis says, “Why weren’t they there?” Good question. If your child is such a star and can score 3 goals, why would you not be there? And, even if they aren’t, shouldn’t you still be there?
Which brings me to my parental fail today. I received an email from Sabrina’s coach that there won’t be a game this weekend. And, as hard as it is to admit, I was a little giddy.
In my defense, this is her 12th year playing soccer. And we also have Hayden’s last game on Saturday. I just thought of all the freed up time.
And, don’t get me wrong. I’m a huge advocate for kids’ soccer. It teaches teamwork and stamina and discipline. It’s great exercise. Plus, as they’ve gotten older, it’s even been fun to watch as they’ve gotten aggressive and skilled. And, it’s not a bad way to get some sun (unlike the freezing cold Friday nights in October when we lived in Germany).
So, I guess after a hectic week of appointments…and church activities…and homework…etc., I’m feeling like I just want to sit home on a Saturday. Or splash at the beach with the family. So, here comes the guilt that followed the giddy. I’m off the hook. But I felt bad for even thinking that.
Because, deep down, I do think a parent should be there for their kids’ soccer games. And music concerts. And pack meetings. And roadshow performances. Whether they are the star or not. Because, really, they should feel like a star. And when parents take the time to be there for all of their special and everyday moments, especially when they want to be there, kids will feel like stars. Definitely NOT a fail.
3 comments:
NO GUILT!! You are an excellent mother!!
This post speaks volumes about what you value. Having a day "off" every so often is really okay. I was raised in a family where my parents didn't come to every activity, but there was a large family in our ward that participated (every family member) in every kid's activities. I was so envious and decided that when that day came that I had kids of my own, I would also go to every activity I could, and I am so thankful for that family's example.
As I read your blog, I see a kindred spirit in you. We think so much alike it almost makes me laugh. I love going to my kids' activities and feel it a blessing to be able to do so, but a day off makes me giddy too--just so long as it's only every once in awhile.
Thanks, Julie...It's exciting to actually have someone that isn't family reading my blog...ha ha. I felt the same way about reading a lot of your blog. Julie recommended you to me, but I have yet to learn how you know her...
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